As the weather gets warmer, more park visits and outdoor activities are expected. But for parents of neuro-divergent children, this outdoor migration brings a whole new slew of challenges. What is important to know about neuro-divergent children is that they are diverse, hence the name. While most parents struggle with parenting in public (think meltdowns in the middle of the grocery store), parents of children with ASD have the additional challenge that while their child may often look to the outside observer as neuro-typical, they, in fact, are not. These children look and act “regular,” until they simply cannot do so.
Согласно Мир инвалидовОколо 10% населения имеют какую-либо невидимую или скрытую инвалидность. Более социальные аспекты весны означают, что больше людей видят, реагируют и, к сожалению, осуждают вашего ребенка. Для родителей детей со скрытым расстройством аутистического спектра это может стать причиной чрезмерной дисциплинированности их детей на публике. Однако для таких детей их поведение - это не вопрос дисциплины, а скорее то, как они справляются с миром в силу своих неврологических реалий.
For an ASD child, an outing can provide many challenges. They may have sensory processing disorders, anxiety, and sensitivity to bright lights or loud noises, all of which will affect the child’s behavior. In addition, children with ASD are more prone to tantrums and generally have longer-lasting meltdowns than their neuro-typical peers. In addition, neuro-divergent individuals can be less mature than neuro-typical children. Therefore, behavior that may be inappropriate for a neuro-typical child at a certain age can be entirely acceptable for the same-age child with ASD.
Недостаточная осведомленность об этих скрытых нарушениях становится все более очевидной после недавних проблем, с которыми столкнулись многие родители детей с расстройствами аутистического спектра во время перелетов из-за требований к маскам в общественном транспорте. В то время как дети с расстройствами аутистического спектра часто освобождались от необходимости носить маски при отсутствии видимых нарушений, многие родители получали выговоры за то, что их ребенок не носит маску, что может быть очень сложным для ребенка с расстройствами аутистического спектра.
Что же делать родителям ребенка со скрытым диагнозом, когда в их сторону направлены злобные взгляды и осуждающие шепотки (или откровенно непрошеные и грубые советы)?
#1- Be upfront about your child’s diagnosis
Unfortunately, the stigma still associated with an ASD diagnosis causes many parents not to inform others of their child’s diagnosis. However, keeping a child’s diagnosis secret does a disservice to both you and your child. When you are comfortable with your child’s reality, you can give them the tools to truly thrive and grow. Informing friends and family (and sometimes judgmental strangers) of your child’s diagnosis can allow them to handle the situation with your child correctly.
Если кто-то считает, что ваш ребенок ведет себя неадекватно по отношению к обстановке, возрасту или сверстникам, спокойно объясните, что у вашего ребенка аутизм. Объясните, что внешне ваш ребенок может быть похож на их ребенка. Однако его диагноз не позволяет ему взаимодействовать с миром таким же образом.
#2 – Realize that their reaction is out of ignorance, not malice
Most people are not mean; they are simply uneducated about ASD and all the various forms it can take. Realizing this allows you to handle the situation without embarrassment or anger. Your child has ASD, and this is not something to be embarrassed about. ASD and the behaviors associated with it are not in any way a reflection of your parenting skills. Meltdowns or other behavioral issues can be unpredictable and out of your control, but educating the unknowing bystander(s) about your child’s condition is. Which brings us to our next point…
#3 – Use the opportunity to educate
In explaining your child’s diagnosis, you have hopefully created one less uneducated and intolerant person in this world. They, in turn, may find themselves witnessing another child’s meltdown or tantrum and can react emphatically, offer to help the parent involved, and even educate others on the proper way to respond to a child who might have a hidden diagnosis.
With the knowledge gleaned from raising your child with ASD, you are these individuals’ best resource to learn more about ASD. Therefore, do not take offense at their questions (no matter how insensitive they may seem), but instead view these questions as an opportunity to teach them how to react and interact with ASD individuals.
If you’re overly ambitious, you can create business cards with some links to resources that these confused bystanders can visit to find out more information about ASD.
#4 Делайте маленькие шаги
The best way to avoid these meltdowns in the first place is to work on desensitizing your child to any sensory overload or other triggers that may cause them. Start off by showing them pictures of the playground or park you’re going to. Follow that by showing them the park by driving by it so that they can experience it with the safety of the car window, separating them from any overwhelming experience.
Как только вы почувствуете, что ваш ребенок готов к походу, спланируйте все заранее. Сообщите им, что они пойдут в парк в такое-то время, и уточните, после какой части их рутины они пойдут, чтобы они точно знали, когда вы уйдете.
Try to go at times when the park isn’t too packed, and start off staying in the park for short periods of time, gradually adding more time to the length you stay. You can also bring along your child’s favorite comfort object or toy while he is at the park.
Recognize your child’s sensory areas and avoid those areas on the playground.
#5 – Remember you’re doing the best you can
Inevitably, your child will have a meltdown. Which child doesn’t? And inevitably, there will be someone who will be judgmental or respond negatively. Isn’t there always? Never let someone else’s perception of you or your child affect how you perceive yourself or your child. Focus on your child’s progress rather than their setbacks, and acknowledge that you are doing the best you can for your special child and the rest of your family. Be proud of your wonderful child and the amazing job you are doing raising them, and you will persevere even in the face of unwarranted criticism.
Выходите на улицу, наслаждайтесь прекрасной весенней погодой и не позволяйте ребенку с аутизмом мешать вам общаться с окружающим миром.
